{"id":22610,"date":"2019-05-13T23:48:44","date_gmt":"2019-05-13T23:48:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/localhost\/ftf\/?post_type=first-things&p=22610"},"modified":"2019-05-13T23:54:08","modified_gmt":"2019-05-13T23:54:08","slug":"surviving-child-care-separation-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"first-things","link":"https:\/\/www.ftf-stg.magnetry.com\/es\/first-things\/surviving-child-care-separation-anxiety\/","title":{"rendered":"Surviving child care separation anxiety"},"content":{"rendered":"

It\u2019s<\/span> harder on you than it is on her. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s what everyone said when I left the child<\/span> <\/span>care center <\/span>and <\/span>my beautiful, <\/span>3-<\/span>year<\/span>–<\/span>old was screaming for her mama. Me. The terrible parent that had to go to work to be able to provide for her. <\/span><\/p>\n

Well<\/span>,<\/span> they were right about one thing<\/span>.<\/span> <\/span>That first time<\/span> was hard on me. I cried the entire way to work. <\/span><\/p>\n

At lunch time<\/span>,<\/span> I raced back to the child care center<\/span> to check on her,<\/span> expecting to see my baby still crying and waiting for me. As I peeped into the room, I saw her playing with another little girl<\/span>, t<\/span>hrowing blocks in the air and belly-laughing as they came crashing down. <\/span>\u201c<\/span>How is <\/span>this <\/span>possible<\/span>?\u201d <\/span>I thought. <\/span>\u201c<\/span>S<\/span>he was so broken this morning<\/span>.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The next morning brought the same routine and the same reaction. I would be lying if I said I didn\u2019t go back to the child care center again on my lunch hour. But in the following days, <\/span>things started to <\/span>change <\/span>for the better<\/span>. <\/span>Gradually. <\/span>The crying was less dramatic (on both of our parts)<\/span>,<\/span> and <\/span>it <\/span>was becoming less painful to part.<\/span><\/p>\n

After some time, we got better at separation anxiety. We developed routines. The teachers were comforting and supportive. Our mini-breakdowns became less and less, and my daughter was able to be confident in knowing I would be back to pick her up and that she might even have a little fun while I was gone. We made it work.<\/span><\/p>\n

But even today, in the crazy chaos of parent life, no matter how used to dropping her off I\u2019ve become, I still miss her the minute I get back into the car <\/span>without her. <\/span><\/p>\n

I hope that never changes. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tips for making drop-offs a little easier<\/span><\/h5>\n

There are a few tips I can offer to other parents who are going through some form of separation anxiety<\/span> with their child:<\/span><\/p>\n

Make it routine<\/span>.<\/span><\/strong> <\/span>W<\/span>hen your child is crying, you want to make it all okay. Sometimes making it okay doesn\u2019t involve you<\/span>.<\/span> As hard as it is to walk away, start a routine of leaving. <\/span>Whether <\/span>it\u2019s getting your little one settled with a snack or toy, or handing them to a caregiver with a hug and a kiss, <\/span>making a swift departure will be appreciated by everyone. The sooner you leave, the sooner your child can move on with their day. Keeping this goodbye routine the same is a great way to build confidence with your child that you will be back and leaving is a \u201cnormal\u201d thing. <\/span>Show your child that they have nothing to worry about. If you need to walk away and have your own mini-breakdown, then do it! You can process however you need, but don\u2019t do it in front of them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Prepare <\/span>ahead of tim<\/span>e<\/span><\/strong>.<\/span> P<\/span>lanning ahead is one of the most effective tools <\/span>for <\/span>smooth transitions. Start a goodbye strategy <\/span>using <\/span>family or friends that help care for your child<\/span>. It can be as simple as leaving your child in their care for<\/span> a quick trip to the store. This way<\/span>,<\/span> when you go into a new setting, the environment may be new but the strategy is the same. Also, visit the child care center ahea<\/span>d of time and <\/span>let your child get used to the atmosphere. Ask the center about hourly care. If you can start with a few hours of child care before a long day, <\/span>it<\/span> will help your child get acquainted with being there. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re going to be okay.<\/span><\/strong> This too shall pass. Babies should come with these instructions <\/span>on a little label. When dealing <\/span>with separation anxiety, realize that you set the tone for the goodbye strategy. Be confident that your child will be fine and you will be together again soon.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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